Recently Divorced asks-
I am recently divorced after twelve years of marriage and having trouble getting back back into the local dating scene. Do you have any suggestions where to meet smart, professional women?
This is an easy one.
First off what I would tell you is to forget all about trying to consciously meet someone. Relationships start when you least expect it and women can smell desperation from a mile away.
Lucky for you if you live in Gloucester there are only about a bazillion different social, business and physical activities happening each and every week. Read the Gloucester Times Event Listings, Read The GMG Things To Do Section daily found here, if you love business get involved with The Chamber or The DMO. The main thing is to get out there, throw yourself into something you really enjoy and chances are you will meet someone with like interests when you least expect it.
Now since you are recently divorced your confidence may be slightly off and the key to meeting women (or men) is confidence. I would suggest at the top of any list that you start a work out regimen. Working out especially at a gym releases great hormones and will boost your testosterone levels. You will begin to feel better about yourself as you get stronger and more fit and believe me when I tell you, nothing is more attractive than confidence to women. Confidence is not arrogance mind you, just feeling good about yourself will do wonders when you present yourself to a potential friend or mate.
The Manchester Athletic Club is teaming with women especially around 9am when they drop off their children at school and at that time there happens to be many fitness classes that women attend.
Cross Fit Cape Ann seems to also have a community sense of friendships fostering over there. Now remember you’re not there to meet women specifically, you are there to work out and not be the creepy stalker guy. Forget about consciously trying to meet women, build confidence in yourself and the women will come to you.
If the arts is your thing, get involved in the many artists associations like the Rocky Neck Art Association, seARTS, take some classes, you get the idea.
The main thing is to get yourself out there , foster your passions and build up your confidence once again.
Oh and the most important of all- DO NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES BRING UP YOUR EX. Not in a good way, not in a bad way. No prospective partner wants to think that you are still obsessing over a past relationship. Don’t lie, but ABSOLUTELY DO NOT COMPARE, CONTRAST OR BRING UP YOUR EX! If asked a specific question about your ex, no matter what say something complementary and move on to a different subject without lingering on over it. Nothing will kill your chances faster.
Let me know how you make out.
If you have a love life question you would like answered send it in to goodmorninggloucester@yahoo.com I’d be happy to answer it and it will 100% remain anonymous.
What do you guys think about my advice? Rate it 1 star is terrible 5 stars is great advice below the comment section.
Good Morning Gloucester 
Joey,
From Lobsta’s to Blogs to DEAR JOEY!!!!!!!!
Good Advice!
Pete Silveira
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5 stars. Great advice.
It seems like the advice that everyone gives, but the reason everyone gives it is because it’s true!! And it works. Focus on you, do good things for yourself, build up confidence in you, go out and have a ton of fun, and eventually you’ll meet people you want to date (and who want to date you!)…
Divorce sucks. It’s a soul-sucker…Good for you for getting through it and getting back in the game!
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that is sound advice!
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Try a free and great online dating site.
I’m in the same situation, but live in NYC and try to get up to my home on Gloucester at every chance I can. I’ve met some great women on that site!
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Five Stars!! Great advice for a man or woman!!!
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Dear Joey, 5 stars! good job!
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5 stars. Your advice is also worth following by someone who has never been married — as well as for someone who has been divorced.
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Five stars, Joey! After my divorce many many years ago, I lived alone for awhile and spent a lot of time figuring out how I wanted to live day to day. I’d get up in the morning , go for a walk on the beach, work in my studio and just be open and interested in whoever walked in the door of my shop. I met lots of wonderful people that way and one day Mark walked in – the rest is history, lol.
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Of course the husbands of some of those wives who drop off their children at at school before heading for the MAC (or the Y) might have something to say about your five-star advice! Jersey Shore, maybe, but Glosta — no way!
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Not all mothers are married and not all the women that take the large amount of women’s classes offered at 9am are married. It seems the reason those classes are offered at that time is because many women can make that time.
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🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟👍👍👍👍👍
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“Dear Joey” gets 5 stars from me as well. That’s good advice!
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Thanks. I’m hoping to get some questions from women as well.
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You’ll hear from me eventually, Joey. I’m taking my time formulating my question(s).
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I’m impressed! I think you may have stumbled onto your next career path – I can see “Dear Joey” being syndicated and followed by men and women around the globe. You’re the next Dear Abby, but from a well rounded conscious male perspective. Just don’t use the B word and you’re golden 🙂
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Is that bitch or broad?
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I’m guessing, either or….
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I’ve met a lot of new friends through Meetup.com. that’s http://www.meetup.com Lots of activities for singles and/or couples. Just type in your interest(s) and you’d be amazed at all the groups in the North Shore area! Just have fun!
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