Active Widow asks-
I am a 65 year old widow. I am still active and live on Cape Ann. I am not sure how to go about dating these days, or how to start. Or should I even start?
While I feel very confident in how to answer many questions that come in, there are questions where I don’t feel qualified to answer. This is one of these questions.
On one hand even reaching out to ask about how to go about starting to date makes me think she is interesting in getting out there. On the other hand “Active Widow” ends asking if she should even start. This leads me to believe that there is a certain hesitation. So perhaps our older readers can give some advice here from personal experience.
I like the idea of older folks dating and not just ending their romantic lives once their spouses pass but I imagine it has to be a very personal thing and there can’t be one answer that’s right for everyone.
I often wonder if people in their sixties lose their spouses and then start dating and end up having great sex lives. Like are people in their sixties getting all freaky in these retirement communities? Can’t you just see Wilford Brimley on the set of the classic 1985 movie Cocoon just drilling all the old broads in his trailer in between scenes?
While I like the idea of older folks getting their groove on I don’t really even want to picture it to be honest. Like the most gruesome thing any kid can ever encounter- “the dreaded walking in on your parents having sex horror” it’s the same type of thing. You’re happy if it’s happening but you don’t want to know under any circumstances.
If anyone has been in this situation or knows people that have gone through this please chime in in the comments below this post. If you can’t find the comment section because you subscribe to the GMG evening email, click the title of the post and you will see the comment section below the post.
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