Recently Divorced asks-
I am recently divorced after twelve years of marriage and having trouble getting back back into the local dating scene. Do you have any suggestions where to meet smart, professional women?
This is an easy one.
First off what I would tell you is to forget all about trying to consciously meet someone. Relationships start when you least expect it and women can smell desperation from a mile away.
Lucky for you if you live in Gloucester there are only about a bazillion different social, business and physical activities happening each and every week. Read the Gloucester Times Event Listings, Read The GMG Things To Do Section daily found here, if you love business get involved with The Chamber or The DMO. The main thing is to get out there, throw yourself into something you really enjoy and chances are you will meet someone with like interests when you least expect it.
Now since you are recently divorced your confidence may be slightly off and the key to meeting women (or men) is confidence. I would suggest at the top of any list that you start a work out regimen. Working out especially at a gym releases great hormones and will boost your testosterone levels. You will begin to feel better about yourself as you get stronger and more fit and believe me when I tell you, nothing is more attractive than confidence to women. Confidence is not arrogance mind you, just feeling good about yourself will do wonders when you present yourself to a potential friend or mate.
The Manchester Athletic Club is teaming with women especially around 9am when they drop off their children at school and at that time there happens to be many fitness classes that women attend.
Cross Fit Cape Ann seems to also have a community sense of friendships fostering over there. Now remember you’re not there to meet women specifically, you are there to work out and not be the creepy stalker guy. Forget about consciously trying to meet women, build confidence in yourself and the women will come to you.
If the arts is your thing, get involved in the many artists associations like the Rocky Neck Art Association, seARTS, take some classes, you get the idea.
The main thing is to get yourself out there , foster your passions and build up your confidence once again.
Oh and the most important of all- DO NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES BRING UP YOUR EX. Not in a good way, not in a bad way. No prospective partner wants to think that you are still obsessing over a past relationship. Don’t lie, but ABSOLUTELY DO NOT COMPARE, CONTRAST OR BRING UP YOUR EX! If asked a specific question about your ex, no matter what say something complementary and move on to a different subject without lingering on over it. Nothing will kill your chances faster.
Let me know how you make out.
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