Category Archives: Daily Discussion

Helpful or Hells No? Dining out Debate.

I’ve been thinking about this for years…as it is something that I’m conscious of and pretty particular about each and every time we go out to eat….especially with the kids.  So, here’s the question…  Do you clean up the table to help out your waiter or waitress or do you leave it as is?  Or does it depend on the degree of the mess?

I’m a big fan of doing what I can to make order of the mess.  I am admittedly more than a bit obsessive compulsive, so it is probably 60% because I feel like I honestly should and 40% because I can’t bear to not do it.

I’m a big fan of wiping down the table, stacking plates, placing silverware neatly on one dish….and even scraping leftover food onto one dish so that the wait staff doesn’t have to scrape each individual plate.  I’ve been told that I go too far on more than one occasion.

I should also add that with a very brief exception (one summer vacation), I’ve never worked in a restaurant so it isn’t out of any kind of kinship…I think of it rather as common courtesy.

On that note, when the boys were smaller…and hence messier, I was known to pick up the debris that lay like shrapnel all over the floor after the breakfast battle of pancakes and scrambled eggs.  How could I not?  But I can still hear my friend’s voice saying, “Could you please stop doing that?” as I was under a high chair picking up scraps of rejected food.

So, by the end of a fantastic evening at the Studio the other night our table was covered with no fewer than 25 dishes.  With three adults and four children..with pretty refined palates…we managed to knock down one salad, one bowl of chowder, one pizza, one fish and chips, one order of edamame, one order of chicken dumplings, six platters of sushi (don’t forget the 4 little bowls of soy sauce), four desserts (might I add those were a lovely surprise, on the house, delivered by the manager especially for the kids), tons of silverware, and a bunch of glasses.

Even with well-behaved kids who are old enough to not make any extra or over-the-top kinds of messes, the table was an absolute disaster.  I could never, in a million years, have felt ok about simply sitting there as things were cleaned up around me.  I made a meek attempt to stack, straighten, consolidate, and wipe….while simultaneously being told nicely to leave it alone by our waiter.  It is worth mentioning that the same waiter and a co-worker of his shooed me away repeatedly as I tried to help clean up the chocolate milk that Finn had spilled on the floor.  OK….I realize I just said that the kids are old enough to not make any extra or over-the-top messes….but, that was a total accident and it was a really big glass compared to his little hands!  Bygones.  In case the picture isn’t painted well enough….allow me to make it clearer….that is a FANTASTIC staff over there at the Studio.  But, I digress.

What’s your Modus Operandi when it comes to post dining dish etiquette?  I’d really like to know.  Anyone in the restaurant business care to chime in also?

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Why Can’t We Be Friends?

I’m going to let you in on a little secret.

One of my best friends in the entire world has a penis.

I could stop this post there and assume you know what I’m getting at…but, for fear you’ll misinterpret my meaning, I’ll go on.

One of my very best friends is a boy.

That may not seem blog worthy to you, but as of late I’ve been wondering how many others out there have a best friend of the opposite sex.

This friend and I have been close for almost 20 years and he means the world to me.  I’m not going to lie, in the very beginning we toyed with the idea of being more than friends, but never much did.

One night, a few years into our friendship, we were out together on Christmas Eve and he introduced me to the man who is now my husband of 13 years and the father to our two sons.

My friend is still an amazing friend and I treasure his presence in my life in ways that are kind of hard to explain.  I know he’d do anything for me and he’s brutally honest in ways that are totally refreshing.  He’s one of the most generous people people I’ve ever met…and the laughing that comes when we’re together is priceless to me.  Really, truly, priceless.

He goes away for long periods of time for work and we go months (or even longer) without seeing each other, but when he comes home I’m beyond thrilled to see him.  Through the years he’s had a fair share of long term relationships….and I’ve met them all.  Some embraced me as his good friend, sometimes realizing that befriending me was as a hall pass of sorts….some didn’t quite understand and never much liked me.  Bygones.

My husband is supportive (well, maybe tolerant is a better adjective) because I think he really understands that this friendship is something that I need and cherish…even if I can’t so eloquently explain why.  But, I am well aware, it is a luxury that he is tolerant as most others raise an eyebrow and find it more than a bit strange.

Sometimes I understand why others find it strange….sometimes I don’t.  To be blunt, the fact that he has a penis doesn’t mean I’m going to see it any more than the fact that my girlfriends having boobies and a vagina means that I’m going to be seeing those.  I have plenty of girlfriends whose private parts I’ve certainly never seen.  Right?

So, I ask you, can men and women just be friends?  When Harry Met Sally tells us “no”, but I think “yes”.

Comment please if you do indeed (or ever have had) a good friend of the opposite sex and take the poll to add your opinion.

A Question For Litter Lady and Donna ardizzoni (and whoever else wants to chime in)

In regards to the expanded bottle bill which would include water bottles, juice bottles, when you are doing your Community Clean Ups what do you find to be the worst litter items?

I have a theory that after cigarette butts, that it be styrofoam cups and plastic bags that get blown around in the wind, followed by plastic water and juice bottles that lay fallow since there’s no deposit on them.

So Donna, focus on the question, if you have time respond in the comment section to this post in list form what you see as the number

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5)

Worst litter items around town?

Not only am I all in on the expansion of the bottle bill but I’d be all in for banning styrofoam coffee cups for take out and a 2 cent plastic bag at the grocery store.

Here’s yesterday’s Bottle Bill Post-

QUESTION 2: Law Proposed by Initiative Petition Expanding the Beverage Container Deposit Law

Well Lookey Here- Local Gloucester And Rockport Dentists Support The Use Of Flouridation

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Letter: Local dentists stand behind fluoridation

To the editor:

We, dentists of Rockport and Gloucester, favor the continued use of community fluoridation in these towns to help prevent tooth decay.

Many measures are useful maintaining the oral health of our citizens, most notably community fluoridation with its proven track record for fighting tooth decay. Manipulating drinking water fluoride levels to fight tooth decay has been shown repeatedly to be safe, effective, and comparatively inexpensive. Additionally, practically all members of our communities receive fluoridation’s therapeutic benefits regardless of socioeconomic status.

For the entire letter to the editor click here to view it at The Gloucester Daily Times website

Interesting.

Here is the poster from the anti Flouride folks-

RR6NoSideTMPoster

Daily Discussion- Your Favorite Grilling Method

My boy Erik Lorden loves to cook with charcoal.  He feels that it gives better heat and flavor.  For me it’s a big PITA and when I’m hungry it’s a gas grill for me.

What type of grill do you use?  Which do you wish you used and why?

Not gonna lie those big green egg things seem like the coolest thing ever.

Now that I think of it we need to have a BBQ contest don’t we?

Where in the city can you grill outdoors without some special kind of permit and we could have a BBQ contest?

Daily Discussion- the Holy Trinity Of Kids Car Mess Stuff

imageYou may as well drive directly to the car wash to pump quarters in the super-vac if you bring any of these as a snack for your kids for a road-trip-

Pretzels, popcorn, goldfish.

I won’t even get into the hell that is yogurt sticks when they toss those aside.

What is your top three evil food items that without question get ingrained in the seating area where your youngsters ride?

Daily Discussion- What Is Proper Etiquette When It Comes To Dogs Barking In Your Neighborhood Throughout The Evening/Night?

I wonder how the thought process goes for dog owners whose dogs are outside and bark throughout the evening and into the night (like non-stop barking).

Do they much like the dog lovers whose dogs jump up on you and get your clothes all filthy think it’s cute when they bark all night outside as well?

You think those dog owners are saying to themselves “Ahhh, that sweet melody of my dog barking away at bunny rabbits in the yard all night, I bet all our neighbors love listening to our dog just as much as we do.  Isn’t it just music to your ears and oh so soothing when you’re trying to go to bed.  puts me to sleep every time”

I’m not the kind of guy that ever wants to call the po po or animal control on their neighbors.  I’d really just like them to realize that there are neighbors out there that just might not appreciate their dog barking all night the way they do.

What are your thoughts on the subject?  Have you ever encountered this and how did you handle it? Leave a comment on this post and explain what course of action or non-action you would take.

Discussion of The Day- One Week In Market Basket Boycott, How’s It Affecting You?

 

Have you continued to shop at Market Basket?  Have you switched over to Shaws or Stop and Shop or Common Crow? How do you find the pricing and product selection at the places you have been shopping?

How strong is your resolve to support the Market Basket Employees in the face of higher prices at other supermarkets?

Leave a comment on this post describing how the Market Basket Boycott has been for you.

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